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Pete's avatar

Wow! 🫶🏻

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Jeni Hankins's avatar

Aww! Thanks, Pete! Hugs to you and CLP!!

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Isabelle Elena's avatar

I love this song. It feels like it came at the exact right time in my life! Having cancer means becoming the recipient of myriad unasked for opinions, and the spirit of "I'm not gonna wear that crown" is a real reminder that I'm the only one who really knows what's going on with me and my decisions for my health and myself are the only ones that matter!

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Jeni Hankins's avatar

That's so wonderful to hear that my song has come at a good time for you. It's the most amazing thing that I was just sending you a direct message on here and you commented on my post at the same time! I had been thinking about you and your health. YES, you are the one who knows your body and your spirit. I'm always sending you lots of strength and kindness.

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KPS's avatar

I unapologetically love you, sweet Jeni. 🥰

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Jeni Hankins's avatar

I unapologetically love you right back. ♥️

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India Flint's avatar

While by and large the crap tends to cancel out and for (nearly) everyone who tells me i look like a walking compost heap there’ll be someone else who gives me a cheery nod, my inclination has always been to let public judgement slide off me like water pearls from a duck’s back.

That said, I’ve been becoming more and more invisible in recent years so have needed to exercise that particular muscle far less frequently.

I am daily grateful to the courageous foremothers who paved the way for me to enjoy my precious crone years as I wish. “Crone”, you ask? The word comes from the German “Krone”, meaning crown. I am wearing a crown, just not the kind you were so beautifully singing about. My crown is one of my own imagining and one day I might just make myself a visible one.

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Jeni Hankins's avatar

I love to think of your crown and I will love seeing how it manifests in your hands.

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Daniel Jackson's avatar

Not gonna wear that crown ! That's a powerful song. I've been in that situation a time or three. Hope I've not put someone in a fix like that.

From all your music I do feel like I know you somewhat. I get in your head when I listen to your songs and your life. I have never found a single thought about how you should be except when you cut your beautiful hair back, I was surprised. Not good or bad. Just different ! I know you could never stop creating art.

Daniel

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Jeni Hankins's avatar

I do miss my long hair sometimes, Daniel! I agree. I only wish I’d saved it for my dolls! You’re the best and I’ve always been glad to have your company and encouragement in my life. You are a fine friend!

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Simon Brooks's avatar

Love this post. Maybe your apologising is you picking up the British way of being!?!? Grin!

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Jeni Hankins's avatar

Thank you SO much, Simon!! Smiles back to you!

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Charlotte Rains Dixon, MFA's avatar

I love listening to the song as I read, that way I get your wonderful voice in two ways. And I'm the same as you when it comes to avoiding conflict. I'm so conflict-averse it causes problems in my life sometimes. But the older I get the easier it is to not wear that crown. Thanks for this, my friend!

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Gwen Holladay's avatar

I love the lyrics of your song! Haven’t read the MDK post yet, but I will.

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Jeni Hankins's avatar

Thank you so much, Gwen!! yay!!!

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